Dave’s old college friend Frank was in town this week to visit, so last night we headed to a beer bar up the street to hang out for a few hours. I invited my friend Bob to go with us too since I haven’t seen him in a few months and he’s in love with the place that we were going to.

We’re all sitting at the bar, drinking pints of  imported microbrews. Dave and Frank are talking about people they used to hang out with in college. “So and so is working here now, Did you know that he is going to be a Dad? Remember that one place we used to go to all the time?”

Bob and I start reminiscing about the days I like to refer to as “a 3 year blur”. For all of us, so much has changed. The crew we once all hung out with pretty much broke up.  I graduated, got a career, met Dave and realized I was in my mid 20′s and it was probably time to stop acting like a college kid. Bob met Kat, started really having to work, and just recently got married and became a stepdad. Our entire lives did a complete 180. We have things we care about now, people to take care of, bills to pay. We’re spending our extra money on furniture and appliances instead of on a 6 pack. Holy shit, we’re adults now.

There was a lot of “Remember the one time…” and “OMG, do you remember when we all went to…” and “God, that chick was crazy…” I will never forget those days. We did things we probably shouldn’t have. We said things that were probably out of line. In the end all of us went on different paths. I suppose it’s what happens when you grow up. You have less in common with some of the people you used to see everyday. You start seeing them less and less until eventually you just don’t see them at all. The people that stay around become your “real friends” and not just “those crazy people you used to hang out with back in the day”. I have a few of those people and it’s always great to get together every now and then and talk about the good ol’ days. Things have changed, we’ve grown up and we’ve gotten more responsibilities, but we’ll always have those crazy memories to share.

Tags: adulthood, friends, life